Beware of frenemies!

A friend in need is a friend indeed! Or is he? When you have a known enemy it is already bad so where does it leave you when you have frenemies?

The concept of frenemies was always there since life itself. It might have evolved from generations. So what the heck is a frenemy? It is that person who you think has your back but they are the ones who have your back just long enough to stab in it.

I had always wondered how can you not recognise who your frenemies are so that you can steer clear of them and save some heartache. However it is not as easy as it seems to be. When you are in such a situation it is complicated. Sometimes you know what's happening but you being generous to a fault, give them a second chance and then some more.

Why are they so insecured around you is for them to know and you to find out. The frenemity stems from this insecurity. They will always have a laugh at your expense and will get a feeling of Schadenfreude when you are in trouble. If you notice any such people around you, scurry and scamper, run as far away from them before they can trample all over you and cause considerable damage.

When you have a frenemy the best thing you can do to yourself is to close the chapter and walk away from them in search of new friends. Trust me you dont have to accomodate them in your life and be a punch bag.

They say that you should keep your friends close and your enemies closer but you should definitely keep your frenemies the closest to spot, mark and dispel them from your life. Cheers!

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