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Young or old, does it matter?



Old will always be gold. And gold here alludes to the purity of things and not the value, as the value of diamond and platinum will always be higher than gold. But we never say old is diamond or platinum.

Every year we celebrate our birthdays with great aplomb though we are aware that we are not getting any younger but older every year. You are as old as you feel you are in your head. All of us have two ages : one is our biological age and the other is our calendar age.

Some of us give undue importance to our calender age. If you want your real age, ask yourself. How young you feel? That is what you are. People sometimes use age forty as an excuse to not try out certain things. Like that thing suddenly becomes a taboo after forty.

After age forty people think they can't exercise vigorously. Although you should exercise irrespective of your age, If you are new to it, you should definitely talk to your doctor and then embark on a new journey. As for anything else like painting, singing, travelling, dancing and many more fun things, you need no permission from anyone but the zeal to begin.

For me aging doesn't matter at all. It shouldnt be a barrier for you to start afresh. If you want to learn a new language or course, please dont think about your age. Focus on your wishes and desires.

The other day I heard my friend saying that some people age gracefully. And I was left baffled by her statement. She explained that for her the term `to age gracefully ' meant to accept your age as it is. To not go out of your way to look younger than you are. I asked her who decides that. She looked exasperated and replied - ofcourse, the person in question.

Exactly. Not you and me but the person in question. So now if the person has decided to colour her hair, opted for lenses for her eyes instead of the bulky spectacles or elected to go under the knife for improvements in her looks, its that persons choice. Who are we to judge?

For me its rather the attitude we all have towards life. How we take on and handle life at each stage of our age. Are we progressing. Has life taught us to be more humble with all its setbacks and gains and momentum. Have you become more wiser, kinder, gentler or compassionate with age. Then for me thats aging gracefully.

So for me what we do to look young or old is our individual choice. Some of us may feel younger than we are and choose facelifts to match the gap. Nice. Some young people might colour their black hair white as a fashion statement. Nice. Some others may feel they are looking exactly their age and prefer not doing anything about it. Nice too.

Focusing more on outer appearance is unfair. You cannot judge if the person is aging gracefully or not just by the outer appearnace. Someones put it very nicely when they said, "If you would have eaten a little bit of your makeup maybe you would have a beautiful heart just like your face." 

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