Don't lose a wink of sleep over Parenting.

Every parent, be it a mother or a father is not born as a good mother/father. We all have to learn it when we actually have our own baby. One cannot learn parenting by simply reading a great parenting book. It's a 24/7 job with absolutely no training. We all have to learn on the job.

Parenting word itself is such a beautiful word and the meaning of it seems to be so profound, that sometimes I forget, that you dont need to be perfect at it, to be a good mother. Well, one might think that there is a set of rules to follow when you become a parent. But hell no, there cant be the same rules which are applicable to different kids. No two kids are the same. Rather my own two kids are like poles apart. So how can there be any set rules to follow.

I think you need to just follow your very own 'mom instinct'. Every mother has that. Its just a matter of time until you get into that groove. Every woman gets used to her own instinct sooner or later. Earlier, I used to think- What kind of a mother will I be? Will I be able to raise my kids the way my parents have raised me? Will I be able to meet all the expectations?(And believe me there will be expectations from all). But then when my first baby was born and when I first saw her, I just knew that I would do everything in this world to make her happy. Thats when every mother, when she sees her baby in her arms realises that she actually has two hearts. One beating inside her and the other beating outside. And thats just so overwhelming. A beautiful feeling. And we all mothers tend to hold on to that feeling forever and ever. Till eternity.

My younger one is still baby talking. And I think she is growing up so fast. And what can I say about my elder one -Ridhima. She too is growing up at an amazingly fast rate...is that even possible.I just got a tad busy in my younger ones birth and Ta Da....Ridhima was already eight .Phew! I just hope I can keep up with her. So I was just thinking that no matter how much advice you get from all and sundry( that includes even your own mom) just follow your heart and your instinct and you will know exactly how to handle your very own specific, beautiful and unique child.

Dont let others teach you how to become a good mother. Everyone has it in them to become a good mother. It doesn't mean that you have to be perfect. You too are learning. It's a new thing for you too. So make mistakes and learn from them so that you dont repeat them. But go on and make new mistakes. Dont be afraid to do that. Go easy on yourself. Life is too short not to. Cheers!!

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