Somethings in life come with an expiry date.

Whenever I decide to not take an umbrella, it has to rain. What about all those days when I was carrying it. Where were the rain gods then? The murphys law is active. So I have learnt to not take anything for granted. Life is a great leveller. You cannot make a five year plan or plan for long term. It seldom happens as planned. Life has it's own course. And noone can mess with its course.

Many people come in our lives with a purpose and when that is attained, they disappear as magically as they had appeared, leaving us transfixed. The more you hold on to the old things or people. the more they slip off, from your grip. It seems like everything in life has an expiry date. We should all try to learn to move on with the new things that are happening to and around us. It's easier said than done. I get it, nevertheless we have to keep trying knowing that nothing worth doing is ever easy.

I used to always struggle to understand why certain things happen the way they did. I gave up. It's hard to figure out the hows and whys. Some things are just not meant to be. Doesn't matter how much hard you try or how many efforts you put in. When you cannot understand where you are lagging, it becomes tragic to work on that. It's a life cycle. After night there is day. After hardships and hardwork there is success. After sufferings and sorrow, there is happiness and joy. People who dont find it, are just using the wrong measuring device.

It's hard to let go off things easily as you become habitual to them. Once you build habits it is difficult to change them. As they say 'Old habits die hard'. Letting go off with grace is not an easy task and not all can master it. Even if changing habits or change in general is messy and difficult, if we just allow ourselves to be a tad more receptive, it will prove beneficial. My outlook towards any kind of change is to take one step at a time, one day at a time. It makes me feel a bit relaxed to know that it is happening a little at a time( even if it is just an illusion) and I can handle it with a much better mindset.

When we are better equipped with the paraphernalia required to adapt to new ideas, changes and people, we no longer will refrain from letting go off the old stuff but will be embracing the new stuff in the knowledge that it will make us come out as a better person. Knowing that the old things have reached their expiry date, has taught you enough and now its time to move on is helpful. It will bring more joy to look forward to this chakra of new and old. And we will continuously seek to do better with all the mechanics we have at our disposal.

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