We cannot change the course of life.

How I wish I could reverse some of the incidents which left a bad taste in my mouth. If only I could go back in the past and warn my naive self to do things differently, I could save myself. However the reality is we cannot change the past and the reality is more scary than the mimesis.

I am learning that you cannot expect your life to be without any impediments and still learn from it. Life will not be your best teacher if your journey is not strewn with obstacles. Life, I believe is a great leveller. You lose some you win some. If there would have been no darkness we would have not understood the importance of light.

When we were kids, our parents would never fuss over our falls, failures or for that matter anything related to something which is a part of growing up. Whereas in todays times of helicopter parenting we discuss everything related to our kids, our kids friends, our neighbour's kids and our neighbour's kids friends. How are we never exhausted is another days topic.

We would be so much better off, if we stop discussing why we fall, how we fall, when we fall. If falling is part of the game , we will fall. It's a part and parcel of growing up, what todays generation likes to call as Organic. The important thing is teaching our kids that it is ok to fall. Everyone does. When you fall, just dont stay there for long. How much time do you need to sulk? Its not going to get you anywhere. Dust it off and gear up. This is exactly what our parents did. They did not give us time to sulk or fuss over our injuries - physical or emotional. They did not make a big deal out of it.

Also people are becoming less patient. Noone wants to wait. They want all and they want all now. Instant gratification. The African proverb says that patience is a tree whose roots are bitter but its fruit is very sweet. If only people could understand that patience comes from putting it in practice. The more you practice patience the more patient you will be. There are theories which allow you to break a line and grab a free handout as long as you are not coming in the way of others in their pursuit of getting what they want. However if everyone thinks in this fashion there soon will be no line but a lot of chaos to grab whatever comes there way. Patience plays an important role here. If you want the free handouts please stand in the queue. It is meant for all those who have the same desire but are showing patience to get what they want.

To cut the long story short ,instead of trying to change the course of nature let's try to change our direction or we may end up where we are heading. No matter how hard we try but before time and more than destiny, noone gets anything.