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How I became my mother.


I had always wondered how it is possible for my mom to handle things so smoothly. Everything she did seemed easy breezy. It looked easy because she handled it the way only she knew.

I was always enthralled by the way she got things done. No and never weren't the words she liked or used. She used to say why are you afraid to ask. Dont be afraid of seeking and asking. The only two outcomes are a No and a Yes. Why risk a 50 percent chance of a positive outcome just because you are afraid of the No.

Her funda was very simple. All you need to do is ask. If you are lucky enough you will get a Yes and things would work out the way you want. And if it is a No then find a work-around and get it done as per the changed circumstances.

Being very flexible is the key to all decision making, is something I have learned from her. If you get stuck at some point. Dont waste time by being stubborn and stupid. If you want things to work in your favour dont always expect the situation to change. You need to change according to the situation.

I always think I am quite resourceful but still when I am with my mum,, she is the boss, hands down. I take a back seat and get mesmerised by her craft.

By watching her, I learnt to be cautious of the ways situations might turn out. To not be overtly excited till everything works in synchrony and falls in place. To not get too worked up by small setbacks in life.

Since I was a child she had told me- there would be outcomes and situations where nothing would be in your hands. The more you try to control it the further it will get out of your hands. So be patient and wait till the tide is in your favour. No sense in wasting your time and energy to make things happen when its not meant to be.

Now I have started thinking and talking like her. Sometimes my hubby thinks I sound exactly like her. And I hope he means it in a good way. I say this because I don't want to take her other qualities too. Not that those are bad but those are not appealing to me. Like for example she is very particular about all things big or small. And meticulously works out all small details too. That's certainly not my style. I am more relaxed and chilled out.

She is an introvert and likes to keep to herself whereas I am an extrovert and like to share my experiences. She dosent approve of my style and will not reckon it but she is not aware that the feeling is mutual. Though I would like to adopt some of her qualities I like my ways better. And I would most definetly like to retain my traits. Here the grass is not green on the other side.

So to cut the long story short I have managed to become my mother skipping her not so amazing qualities and adopting her best ones. I have managed to attain this feat or so I feel. Not so humble huh..I know. This might be the one which I didnt plan to absorb from her but I guess genes played their part well and this got rubbed off on me. Once in a while self praise wont harm your otherwise humble demure I guess. Cheers!






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