Small things in life matter .

The alpha is on the pounce. He has been there, done that before too. Yet no one believes. No one has proof. He is sleek. Leaves no clues. Moreover, he knows this game. Be charming enough so that you think it is just the way he is, nothing bad. He will make you feel like you have a dirty mind, not him. He was just being nice and charming. What were you thinking? Women have to always watch out for such twisted minds. One wrong move from you and he has his claws out. Ready for you. He always was. He likes to play this game of hide n seek. Of you being the helpless and he being the ruthless. This game of hunting. It's a game of power. He doesn't know that this time the tables have turned. You are no more docile, the girl next door. You have learnt your lesson. You have learnt it the hard way, never to forget. You are alert. You are strong. You are a woman. If the truth is inconvenient noone is ready to believe you. Noone ready to help you. Noone ready to stand and fight...

The one important quality we can all teach our kids or rather first practise ourselves is to own our messes. In reality we very easily manage to find ways to blame others for the mess we make in our lives. The moment we blame someone else for our faults we feel relieved and if we pay close attention to our bodies we can sense the stress leaving our bodies too. People who act dastardly should deter from passing the buck to others. But then it requires a lot of courage to deal with the mistakes you have made and own them without pointing fingers. It is very natural to err. We need to accept it and take full responsibility for the mistakes. Everyone of us thinks our mess is larger than others but the truth is everyones mess is smaller than they think it is. They only have to stop using a microscope to view it. The way we want to take credit for all the good things happening around us we should also be able to shoulder the responsibility of a mishap which has occurred because o...

I dont know where and how to start writing about my absolutely wonderful dad. I always write about how my mother has shaped my personality and how she still has a say in all things I do. I love my dad to the moon and back but I guess I will never be able to express this to him in so many words. On this fathers day my elder one has prodded me to go full throttle on my dad. I feel much honoured to be talking about him today as he is the most lovable, and supportive father one could have ever asked for. All my childhood he has always stood like a pillar by my side and protected me. I have always joked about his protective nature towards his kids and grandkids, however I understand where it comes from. He is very emotional and has passed this side of his to me as well. In my earlier blog , I had written how my dad had explained the meaning of giving and helping to me. I hope some day my girls too adopt his pattern of giving and helping. In my family we always say that my mum and...

The chase never stops. It never ends. If chasing your dreams is what gives you happiness, then by all means you should do that. Happiness comes with a cost. It means different things to different people at different times. You have to decide at what extremes you can go to reach it. If everything is happening the way you want it to, then you probably are in the wrong lane. Many times when things suddenly fall in place and you get everything you want you wonder if you are in wonderland. The debilitating feeling of losing everything grips us and we start panicking. Why it happens is a thing to unfurl. Life's mysteries are easy to solve only if we attempt to understand them. Sometimes you feel like you are being suffocated. There is no one you can turn to. People see the happy face and are quick to judge, not knowing what the person has gone through or going through to reach the place he/ she is in today. You feel like you are all alone. There is noone who understands you. No...

I had always wondered how it is possible for my mom to handle things so smoothly. Everything she did seemed easy breezy. It looked easy because she handled it the way only she knew. I was always enthralled by the way she got things done. No and never weren't the words she liked or used. She used to say why are you afraid to ask. Dont be afraid of seeking and asking. The only two outcomes are a No and a Yes. Why risk a 50 percent chance of a positive outcome just because you are afraid of the No. Her funda was very simple. All you need to do is ask. If you are lucky enough you will get a Yes and things would work out the way you want. And if it is a No then find a work-around and get it done as per the changed circumstances. Being very flexible is the key to all decision making, is something I have learned from her. If you get stuck at some point. Dont waste time by being stubborn and stupid. If you want things to work in your favour dont always expect the situation to cha...

How I wish I knew its going to take three weeks, loads of money and loss of sanity (albeit I was prepared for the first two) to renovate my two bathrooms. If you have a cat or a dog it's still fine you can work around them. They wont complain. But in case you have two kids and one of them is a toddler, then God bless you ! The final result of the project should be kept in mind to survive the blows of debris, loud hammering and constant buzzing of two bees complaining( applicable only to people who have daughters). Complaining about all the noise, the shifting, the change, the food and the list goes on and on. It all started when my hubby said that he intends to renovate the two baths after completing 10 years in the house. So this year we are completing the very much looked forward to, 10 years. Our contractor had said that if we temporarily shift our residence someplace else, he can work on both the bathrooms simultaneously and complete the work in 3 weeks. I was exhil...

They say God cannot be everywhere so he created mothers. Nothing could be truer. From the day a baby is born, all it does is take. Mothers are the ones who are the givers. No woman would share her beauty secrets, her trade tricks, cooking tips, life hacks to anyone but her child. My mother was always right when she said you wont understand a thing till you have your own kids. Being a mother is such a wonderful journey albeit strewn with hurdles and its shares of ups and downs. All my life I always fought with my mother not able to understand her point of view. All I did was ask for more and she gave it all to me. Whoever said, " By the time you understand your mother was right you already have a daughter who thinks you are wrong", is apt. Becoming a mother comes with the promise of happiness and joy but at the same time the job is not easy. There are a lot of hardships. Sometimes it's too much to take and it just becomes overwhelming. I just wanted to be a moth...