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All you homemakers cheer up! The sun is about to rise.


Dont you all think that one of the toughest job in this world is that of a good homemaker. To transform the "house' of bricks and concrete into a 'home' which makes you feel loved, protected, cosy and inviting is literally a laborious activity.

I am waiting for the times which will see homemaking in a more respectful perspective. Like not being mean and saying - you have so much time on your hands, what do you do for the whole day? , isn't it boring to not work and just sit at home?. I want to tell all such people that the answer is a big NO.

No, we dont sit around for the whole day and laze. No, we dont get bored, as we manage to do much interesting stuff than you like to give us credit for. And No, we also don't get enough time in a day and would definitely like to indulge in some 'me time'.

I had to deal with so many people who tried to tell me that as both my girls are now old enough, why dont I think about getting back to work. Firstly, you have to deal with your own battles, think whether you want to work or not. In my case, I was lucky enough to have the liberty to choose. Some people might not,and that's
Ok too. To each his own. And secondly very few people get to do what they actually love to do every single day. Most of us drag just another day. So never let go off your dream. Find the courage to start over as we have very limited time, till the next generation takes over. And people like me ,who have chosen not to work should not feel low.

The work which we all do is not frivolous. It is very important to be the strong pillar who is not in the limelight or forefront all the time, but is silently doing all the work. Be it cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, handling the maids, handling household chores, running errands, planning family get togethers, planning and organising parties and vacations.

All these things are expertly handled by the women at home. Ofcourse, there is a lot of duck paddling. The way the ducks are all calm on the surface of the water but underneath there is vigorous paddling.

Even though you are not working, there are other things in life which you can do. It is never too late to explore the new avenues. It's never too late to start afresh. Whatever your passions are, just don't forget to work on them. It can be learning a new instrument, joining a new dance class, starting a new venture, a vlog showcasing your cooking talents or like me writing your very own blog. I never thought I would be writing so avidly. I always did it secretively, but now I feel liberated. Thanks to that little nudge which was given by my dear ones.

I ike this song by Mark Fonseca and it summarises what I said too.

https://youtu.be/RgslTCrRbv8

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