Thirteen years of togetherness.

Consider this - a girl who is opposed to arrange marriage and wants to find love someday. Like all other girls she too has a twinkle in her eye when she talks about her prince charming.

All her life she has seen her parents so blissfully married that it has set some kind of a benchmark for her. To surpass that seemed very farfetched.

When I first met him I knew we had connected on some level. When we got married, I realised that whether love or arranged it doesn't matter as long as there is respect and individuality. Love grows stronger as time passes and when kids come into picture, it makes life all worth it. I have understood that life is not a bed of Rose's all the time. Everyone has their own share of ups and downs, fights and chaos. To overcome all the hurdles which life throws and be there for each other is what takes you ahead in your marriage. They say when Life hands you lemons, make lemonade, and that's exactly what we have done. Marriage is a constant work in progress. I truly feel blessed to have shared this journey with you..my hubby of thirteen years who has stood besides me like a rock in all my struggles and lows.

You have not just surpassed my expectations but given me much more than that. Everybody's journey in life is different. Thanks to you to adorn ours with so much of love, respect, drama and companionship. I will always cherish the way you bring so much fun in our routines and make otherwise boring stuff, more interesting.

Cheers to the passed years and many more to come. To grow old together will be the most unromantic thing to say for some. But the glorious years ahead seem so promising that I cant wait to get there.

P.S -Happy Wedding Anniversary to my dearest ,17th November.

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