Change is always the only thing constant.

Imagine youself after five years. The same old habits, the same old you, amidst a bit of ageing though. Same things happening over and over again , like getting stuck in some kind of a loop. It sounds boring, doesn't it?

Now imagine yourself after five years where you have Learned a new language, learned to scuba dive, learned dancing and some more wonderful things which help you grow as a person. Isn't this situation more appealing? Some wise person has said- Change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck in someplace you dont belong.

For all of us the feeling of familiarity is very important. Otherwise we feel lost. It is very terrifying to not know where we are going, if we let chaos take lead. Learning to embrace the change which is required or inevitable helps us in the transition. People are more afraid of the transition, than change itself.

To evolve is very natural. When you surrender yourself to the change it will be for your betterment, never change for the worse. Take for example your local eateries which have been around since decades. People go their because the food is amazing and the postprandial effect is good. So if you are serving your local delights, stick to that, if you improvise so much that you lose the essence of your original one, it will make the change but for the worse.

For me this year was special as I tried new things. I had missed learning new things since my first daughter was born.
I was always short of time or so I used to tell myself. No wonder, they say that the birth of your baby is the most life changing moment of all times. This year I learned glass painting and Madhubani drawing, joined a library( after almost half a decade) participated in badminton matches of our society and started my own blog. This is all new to me, and changes my whole schedule for the day. It is hard to take time out for writing, but this was a much needed change.

Our personal growth and happiness lies in the worthwhile tweaks we all make to our schedules, surroundings,relationships and life. If you are not happy in the current situation. It is only you who can change it. You are the hero of your life , all others are side actors. You have to take charge of your life and the good time for that is- NOW. Dragging every day is very painful, so dont. Stop postponing the joy you deserve .

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