Mothers can't be quitters.

All kids like to try out new things all the time. Many of us quit the old stuff to give way to the new stuff. I still remember I had joined a dance class for Bharatnatyam (Indian Classical) just because my friends had joined that class too. So I convinced my mum to purchase the dance uniform and pay the fees. My other friends seemed pretty interested in the dance. But I was getting bored and understood it wasn't for me. I wanted to quit. I prayed to God to bless me as I was going to approach my mother to tell her about my decision to quit. Imagine her fury after only 15 days of the class.

Fast forward to today and the same pattern is back. My younger one-naughty4 is like me. Very eager to start something new. Gets bored quickly. And quits. Sounds familiar, doesn't it? When Naughty4 said yes to activity class, I felt delighted that I would get some extra time but when it started, she got bored within a week and wanted to not go there any more. Then she started drawing class because she likes to follow her big sister. After some days she said she feels sleepy when she starts to draw in the class. Everytime I coax her into a new activity she is highly energetic and is looking forward to the new class. The latest class she quit was that of Toddler Gymnastics. This was also the class she attented for maximum days- 4 months!. Pat on my back. Still a long way to go. She has this separation anxiety as she is just four years old.

It is almost more than 5 months now that she is attending the evening activity class. And I am glad that she has just about started liking it. Both my daughters look up to me. They think I have got some kind of super powers. I can do all things just by my secret magic wand. How I wish that was true! However I have this huge responsibility to not quit whatever I start. Even if I fumble or falter, I keep on learning and practising till I get it right. As children dont do what you ask them to do, they do what you do.

They try to imitate me and want to be like me when they grow up. It's a wake up call for me. I am a hands on mother but still trying to learn to not quit anything.(its actually not fair. I used to think as an adult I can do quitting too).Knowing that my kids watch me like a hawk and follow me, the least I could do is- Lead by example.

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