Please yourself first !

No matter how hard you try to be a Ms or Mr congeniality you cannot make everyone happy all the time. I like to believe that it not only tires you but also makes you unhappy. Because at the end of the day trying to please others may come at the cost of ones happiness. Some wise person has rightly said, " I dont know the key to success but the key to failure is trying to please everybody."

There is always a different viewpoint when you disagree to someone. Both the views may be right in their own place. Listen to your heart. Be assured that the heart never leads you to the wrong path. Let it decide which path to choose. When in doubt always flip the coin..and the side you are praying to be as the outcome, will be the choice which you would want to go with. Your heart already knows the answer, it just needs a little push here a little nudge there to tap into your intuition.

No matter how rough the decision seems to be, you have to take it. What's the point in having so many brilliant ideas and not working on any of them because you are confused which one to pick. Just pick the one which you like. Make a list and cut off the ones which you think are random or on second thought not that good. Get the list to a very few choices and then prioritise them. Dont push aside your gut feeling. It will help you to zero in on the one idea which you really want but are afraid because it's not the safest bet or it may seem like a humungous task or you might need to come out of your comfort zone to do it.

If you are pleased with your decision nothing else should matter. Dont pick the option just because it will please others. If you are uncomfortable doing something listen to the body's restlessness. Just do the right thing, which you feel is right for you, at that time. Dig into your life experiences to arrive to your decision. Dont rely on others to help you here. They will not be able to judge your situation to the T. They are not in your shoes, walking around in them. They may not have the vision that you have. You are the best judge of your situation. Doing what you want or what you feel is right may not be easy but you have to take the plunge, dive into it and own it. That's how you roll.

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