Small things in life matter .

Why do some of us keep saying yes to everything that comes our way? My heart goes out to people who struggle daily to say no, when their hands are full. Too much on your platter and still trying to be good to others, just because you cant say no to anyone can be detrimental to your health. It gives you a lot of stress and you dont know how to deal with it. The first step you can take is to tell yourself that it is okay to say no. Its difficult to deal with all the things that are insanely bombarded at you. Some of us are people pleasers and that pile of work which we have on our table, is the direct outcome of pleasing others all the time. Most of the times people start taking you for granted. They assume you will not say no and talk on your behalf. I always was this person who said yes all the time. And then there was just too much on my plate. And when I knew I had to say No, I would still end up saying Yes. Again and again. Then suddenly one day like an epiphany, I realised

Some people age gracefully and some others age pretty early in their lives. Noone wants to look like they have aged. And so starts the painful ordeal to always look young . As women have more stress to look up to date and ever so young and fresh , they are the ones who go to large extents to maintain their daisy selves even when they hit their 50s or their 60's, like my mum. At 64, she absolutely doesn't look her age. She is a very beautiful, strong woman and has always kept herself updated not only in terms of beauty, youthfulness but also on other topics related to investments and finance. She is very up to date on all that is happening around the world. She reads newspaper. Daily. All of it. And every time there is a topic under discussion, she is aware of whats going on and contributes to that discussion. And I am sitting right next to her. Nodding, and whenever I dont have a clue about what's going on, my nodding becomes a bit strange like incessant nodding. S

Why would people think magical moments are so rare to find. Magical moments are found ubiquitously, all around you. The only thing is you should be able to know what it is for you and enjoy it when you are in one. These moments may be as short as a couple of minutes when you have your favourite ice cream after giving yourself a break from clean eating or it might be a day which you spend in the company of your friends, not worrying about the nittier details of your life. It may be a couple of first few months, when you get to know that you are preggers. To some it may be first few years since your baby's birth. What is more fulfilling than helping somebody in need? That is a magical moment both for the receiver and the giver. For me my topmost magical moments were, when my beautiful daughters were born. The way they care for each other and love each other is very endearing to me. That is something very special. The bond they share between themselves is magical. The time s

What sets a human apart from the rest of the species is cooperation and helping others. We are not the strongest or the fastest of the species but we are certainly the smartest lot on planet earth and that's what takes us at the top of the food chain. We are the most dangerous of predators not only because of the tools that we have created but also because of the innate quality of being resilient. However, in todays world, people get offended at the drop of a hat. It seems like everyone is seeking to find a reason to be offended. Is it because earlier, we ourselves were endorsing the need to be more sensitive. And then people got confused, as they thought being sensitive meant you have to get offended easily. I think being sensitive is more related to you being considerate to others. You being thoughtful of others. Your paying attention to the needs and comforts of others. And if you are sensitive to others you can never be offensive to them. Why is there a need to be poli

My dad is aviophobic and so when he reached London, I heaved a sigh of relief. My parents were visiting my kid brother who is put up in London since last four years. He had been asking them to visit him since he shifted there. However it always felt on dads deaf ears. My dad has become a little bit socially awkward since past couple of years. He wasn't always like that though. I mean yes, he never liked to travel a lot. His definition of travel meant a twenty minutes ride to my place to meet his granddaughters. Apart from these visits he makes a couple of rounds to the doctors office and once in a blue moon visits his relatives and friends after a lot of pestering from mum. My mum likes to travel a lot. She is ever so excited about exploring new places. So this time around too dad had made it very clear that as he is scared of flying he wont join mum on her visit to London. My mother had to remind him that British Airways will be taking care of the flying part and all he h

Last night we had the heartiest meal in a very long time. And that is because we had it with our close friends and family. The food was ordered from outside. The restaurant didn't matter as the ambience created was fabulous. The love and the joy shared across the table automatically got transferred into all that food. In todays schedule of life it becomes a bit difficult to eat all the meals together with the family, however we must try to fit in some meals in a week which we can have with our family. When we do that, there is so much more feeling of unity and love and belonging. Talking about each others day and sharing some funny stories makes mundane vegetables tasty. It creates a bond between the family members and increases value and respect for each other. The saying "the family that dines together stays together" is true. Eating together facilitates good communication between parents and kids and siblings. It engages everyone to participate in sharing their s

Every time at the start of the year I make a a few or atleast one new year resolution. Don't we all? But this time around I have decided to make an exception and not make any. Looking back a couple of years, I remember I had made up my mind to learn a new language. I had enthusiastically gathered the information about the whereabouts of the class, the fee structure and the likes. I convinced my hubby too about how I am all set to learn a new language. However, it was not to be. After my initial vigour died down, I understood it's not going to be feasible for me to join the class. And once you think it is going to be difficult, your brain starts working on it immediately. Your mind is so strong it senses your anxiety and does all it can to avoid any sort of danger it thinks you can put yourself into. It doesn't let you come out of your comfort zone. My best stuff happens when I have not planned for it. Planning seldom gives me the best results. I work better when th

Everyone needs a dose of encouragement every now and then. Do you remember those times when you were down and felt like giving up. Its not because you can't do it. But because you are not fully motivated to do it. When I say I wont do it, I ask myself whether I mean I dont want to do it or I cant do it. Most of the times the answer is I dont want to do it. The next question you can ask yourself is why dont I want to do it. You can give any excuse but the correct answer is either you are lazy or you are lazy. When we slog day in and day out to achieve our goals we should set the time parameters right. We are brutal to ourselves and we set unobtainable time limits. We need to understand that all hardwork is rewarded in cash or kind, sooner or later. The trick is to keep doing the good work. To keep trying to exceed your quality of work. Also when you set realistic goals, your chances to achieve them increase and you get encouraged to do more. Most people give up just before

I thought I would never be able to write anything further, after completing some twenty odd blogs. I wanted to but didn't know how. I got stuck in this nightmare of not knowing how to complete my half written, half edited articles. And then I thought how can there be a writers block if I am not writing a novel. Didn't writers block exist only for novel author's ? I needed some plot, any idea to start writing. Alas! it isnt as easy as it seems. But Magic happens when we least expect it. My little one came to my rescue and saved my day. Naughty9 who is still busy in maintaining her own journal said and I quote," Mama why are you thinking so much. Just start writing and you will know what to write". And she got me my diary and pen. And surely it was just that. The moment I started scribbling my thoughts and editing them I realised that all the ideas came flowing to me, like they were waiting for me to sit and start some writing action. Just thinking wasn'