Making a resolution to make no new resolutions.

Every time at the start of the year I make a a few or atleast one new year resolution. Don't we all? But this time around I have decided to make an exception and not make any.

Looking back a couple of years, I remember I had made up my mind to learn a new language. I had enthusiastically gathered the information about the whereabouts of the class, the fee structure and the likes. I convinced my hubby too about how I am all set to learn a new language. However, it was not to be. After my initial vigour died down, I understood it's not going to be feasible for me to join the class. And once you think it is going to be difficult, your brain starts working on it immediately. Your mind is so strong it senses your anxiety and does all it can to avoid any sort of danger it thinks you can put yourself into. It doesn't let you come out of your comfort zone.

My best stuff happens when I have not planned for it. Planning seldom gives me the best results. I work better when there is some sort of chaos, some sort of spontaneity. I like it that way. Whenever I dont make any resolutions I end up doing a lot during that spin around the sun.

To keep some semblance in the otherwise chaotic structure, I have made a point to atleast stick to the good changes I have made in my life. To try and complete the things which I started and complete them to the best of my ability is what I would like to adhere to.

Some new goals which I would definitely like to set and work for would be in the health department. I would like to be more stronger, leaner and fitter. However I am not going to be too hung on achieving all of them. It's a continuous journey. Not leaving that journey and being on that path is more essential than sulking after minor hiccups and leaving the path midway. John Lennon has aptly summarised this lesson in the saying - "Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans".

Comments

Small niceties will take you a long way

Today I want to write about the thankless job we all are doing silently without complaining or standing up for ourselves when is required.Being a mother, a homemaker is as thankless as it gets. I ask myself- why do I not think about myself first. Why do I not love myself the way I should. Why are we conditioned as such that the moment we get married and then ofcourse when we have kids, we put ourselves later than everyone else. We should be asking the men in our lives this question - what joy can a woman give to her family if she herself is deprived of happiness. Now you will say define Happiness. I think happiness is very overrated. You don't and cannot run after happiness as It is not an object. It is a feeling of total bliss. If people think that we cant complain because we have the basic necessities and then some more, they are fools. Owning and buying things and objects gives us pleasure and not happiness. We are just human and not super moms or uber or ultra moms. Th

Do you have an opinion yet, no...get one now.

Aren't we all getting too much opinionated? I am not saying it's a good or bad thing. Who am I to decide, right? However, I genuinely think the world will be much better with one less of an opinion. So I try not to give one, atleast on sensitive matters and unless asked for one. These days any Tom Dick and Harry has an opinion about how to run a government. I mean seriously. Also like I said I dont have anything against having an opinion. Every fool has it too. Its your right. All I ask though, is it necessary to give it to all, unsolicited, on each and every matter. Isnt it exhausting? Who wouldn't want to be a person of knowledge than to be a person of too many opinions. Having a say in all the things is unnecessary. Having no opinions at all when needed is also shamed. What needs to be done is having your opinion and holding to it until asked for it. Otherwise it loses its value. People who choose to remain quiet on sensitive matters have their own reasons. For

Help yourself because no one else will.

There are some days when you just get too tired. Emotionally tired, physically tired, mentally tired. The feeling to not do anything sticks with you for a long time. The melancholy which sets in is depressing and doesnt seem to end. The light at the end of the tunnel seems fictional. All that you can see is darkness around and you being dispersed in it. You want to come out of it but you cannot. Darkness is ruthless and its grip tenacious. If you let the feeling linger around you all the time, it will pull you in more. But as soon as you try to free yourself from its shackles the better you start feeling. What got you here wont get you there. It means everytime you are sad you have to use different tactics to come out of the sadness. The same way wont always work for different situations. The more you work at it, the better you get at it. Meditation is one fantastic option. And by meditation I dont mean closing your eyes and sitting for hours together, trying not to thi

Small things in life matter .

Search This Blog