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The love n hate relationship we all share with our mothers - Part 1



Some people age gracefully and some others age pretty early in their lives. Noone wants to look like they have aged. And so starts the painful ordeal to always look young . As women have more stress to look up to date and ever so young and fresh , they are the ones who go to large extents to maintain their daisy selves even when they hit their 50s or their 60's, like my mum.

At 64, she absolutely doesn't look her age. She is a very beautiful, strong woman and has always kept herself updated not only in terms of beauty, youthfulness but also on other topics related to investments and finance. She is very up to date on all that is happening around the world. She reads newspaper. Daily. All of it. And every time there is a topic under discussion, she is aware of whats going on and contributes to that discussion. And I am sitting right next to her. Nodding, and whenever I dont have a clue about what's going on, my nodding becomes a bit strange like incessant nodding. She knows that look on my face, and will ask me - So have you started reading newspapers yet. Atleast the main, important news or are you still just reading the entertainment column?

She will ask this in front of so many people that even a confident person will be embarrassed by the mere fact that now all eyes are suddenly on you. So the next answer which comes out of my mouth becomes the focus of all attention and unable to retain anymore suspense I blurt out - Yes, ofcourse I read newspapers. Rather I have started reading a few of the other columns as well. As if to add more weight to my answer I go - I also read the health and fitness column and that lifestyle one too.

All mothers know what's wrong with their daughters just by looking at them, wait my mother understands something is amiss even by the way I sound on the phone. She is like -okay what happened? And I am like nothing has happened. I just called to tell you that I wont be joining the family function. And she says okay,Now tell me what has happened? Sooner or later everything is going to come out, and she knows that. And she takes advantage of that. That's what I dont like in mothers. They just wont quit until you stop beating around the bush and come clean.

Trust my mum to be the honest critic. She will never waste her time in sugar coating things. She will be direct and to the point. And in every argument she will remind me that by raising ones voice he/she doesn't become right or prove a point. Even on the phone if we are arguing and she becomes exasperated she bangs the phone . And then I call her back and ask her why did she do it first and then I will bang it.

I dont know why people Google all the answers to their problems. Some millennial thing I guess. I have my sweet mum who is my go-to person, for all kinds of problems and dilemmas in my life. I believe she has answers to all the things. I suppose that's how moms are. They are there to bring out the best in you, and for that they might stalk you, criticise you, hound you, charm you, play that card- talk properly, I am your mother, Always. But I get it, at the end of the day noone is as interested in your boring lives as your mothers. Eventually all becomes well if you are good to your mum. Cheers!

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