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You are your best motivator!



Everyone needs a dose of encouragement every now and then. Do you remember those times when you were down and felt like giving up. Its not because you can't do it. But because you are not fully motivated to do it.

When I say I wont do it, I ask myself whether I mean I dont want to do it or I cant do it. Most of the times the answer is I dont want to do it. The next question you can ask yourself is why dont I want to do it. You can give any excuse but the correct answer is either you are lazy or you are lazy. When we slog day in and day out to achieve our goals we should set the time parameters right. We are brutal to ourselves and we set unobtainable time limits. We need to understand that all hardwork is rewarded in cash or kind, sooner or later. The trick is to keep doing the good work. To keep trying to exceed your quality of work. Also when you set realistic goals, your chances to achieve them increase and you get encouraged to do more.

Most people give up just before the winning sign. They quit on the one yard line. It is here that they need the right motivation to keep going. With the right kind of motivation you can move mountains. Other people can motivate you. But not all the time. Some people can give you the required nudge but its upto you to keep moving ahead. In the path to achieve your goals you will need motivation throughout your journey. People can just be the trigger for your change or inspire you to think, they can push you to act by motivating. But at the end of the day - you can take a horse to the lake but can you make him drink the water?

What you do after the initial motivation is up to you. You need to rely on yourself for the daily dose of motivation. The only person who has the time and energy to motivate you whenever required is yourself ! Self motivation is the key to your success.

Everytime I feel like giving up, I remind myself of all the ordeals I have had to go through to reach my current position. I tell myself I cant give up now...not when I have given so much time and energy already. The only way is to go ahead till I reach my destination. You need to remind yourself why you started in the first place. The 'why' will be your guiding force. It will keep you on the right path so that you dont lose your focus off your goal.

Since I was a small child my mum would always tell me to not say No to anything. She told me to change my 'no' into ' I will try'. That somehow has stuck with me till now. Noone can tell you - you can't do it or you are not good enough, unless you believe it yourself. It is only you who give up too soon, without giving it a try. Next time before saying -"No", say - "I will try".

No time is a good time to give up. It always is that time to give yourself a push, to reassess your strategy, to align yourself to the newer goals. Self motivation has magical powers so use them the next time you feel like giving up.


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