The marvellous Granny.

Grandmothers are special. Especially to their grandkids. Grandkids love and worship their grannies and the grannies adore their grandkids to the moon and back. What if I tell you I know one such granny who adores not only her grandchild but adores other kids too.
She is very loving and generous and an amazing cook. She is always so eager to help others and is in fine fettle. At her age, I doubt If we will be able stand on two feet and walk, let alone running errands.

I remember when we were young our granny would go to great extents to fulfill our demands. However small or big it would be, she would make sure we got atleast something, which was close to what we asked for. In those days, almost over three decades back, money and food weren't abundant like it is in today's day and time. Most people used to scavenge for things which could be reused.

My gran was such a towering figure, not in terms of physique but in terms of substance. She was an amazing woman and stood her ground in those times of patriarchal system. She was hardened by the scarcity in life and so was very resilient in other aspects of life too.

Not one to give up, at the first glimpse of escape(running away from your problems), she kept on moving. She knew that to come out of the hell she was in, she had to keep moving. If you dont move, you will get stuck in the hellhole forever. To come out if it, you need to be constantly on the move till you see light. The journey is difficult. But it teaches you a few life lessons.

Whenever I miss her and feel low the only thing I know I have to do is keep moving, till I see that light she wanted me to see. I miss her dearly and wonder at the strength she had in her. To give up was never her option. Her words of wisdom have always stayed with me - Dont challenge life, it will throw curveballs at you, it will break you, it will test you until you become humble. It knows, it watches. This universe, it spares noone. It is your perseverance which will take you a long way. One step at a time, one day at a time. I have made it my life motto.

All you millenials who still have grannies, listen to their wise words. The sagacity they have is unmatched. Cheers!

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