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Why is there empty happiness?



Happiness is subjective. Its relative. What is boon to one might be a bane to someone else. But still all of us are running after the all elusive happiness. We are happy but not content. Everytime we achieve something we want or desire, we become happy. However that happiness is shortlived. We are so fixated on something more, that we never celebrate where we are at the moment or what we have already achieved. We are constantly running a race where there cannot be any winner as the damn race never ends! Once we achieve what we want, we set our eyes on something bigger, something better, something higher.

Does it mean that we are stuck in this materialistic world where there is no contentment.. We strive hard to achieve our set goals. And when we get that dream job, that dream salary, that dream house, that dream car, why aren't we still happy. Why is there a void which constantly needs to be filled in. The moment we achieve our goals we waste no time to stretch that band a bit further and set new goals. A bigger house, higher salary, a car which is more luxurious than the previous one and so on and so forth

What are we running after. Noone knows. Just because everyone is running, I think I should be running too. I cant be left alone. What would happen if you are left alone? Nothing bad I suppose. Why are we afraid then? We are afraid because time is not on our side. Time wont wait for anyone, it wont change for anyone and it surely wont come back for anyone.

Also because we want to do it all together, all at once- We want to fit in and at the same time stand out. First decide what you want. You cant have your cake and eat it too. Set your priorities. Find out what is your role in the big scheme of things. Stick to that. Try to get better and better at that by practising it. That will make you happy. Once you know what you like to do , what is your source of fulfillment, then you will feel happy. Truly content.

In the race to become wealthy, you lose your health to get where you are. You become richer but you lose your friends in the quest to get where you are. You become famous but you lose your freedom to get where you are. Everything comes at a cost. You have what you need but are not fulfilled. That's when you start to retrospect. All the ingredients needed for a happy life can change for every person and at different intervals in his life but the one thing which remains constant is the purpose in your life and its fulfillment. Once you get a sense of fulfillment you no longer will have empty happiness but happiness will shine from within.

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